"They went on from there and passed through Galilee. And he did not want anyone to know, for he was teaching his disciples, saying to them, 'The Son of Man is going to be delivered into the hands of men, and they will kill him. And when he is killed, after three days he will rise.'
But they did not understand the saying, and were afraid to ask him. And they came to Capernaum. And when he was in the house he asked them, 'What were you discussing on the way?'
But they kept silent, for on the way they had argued with one another about who was the greatest.
And he sat down and called the twelve. And he said to them, 'If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all.' And he took a child and put him in the midst of them, and taking him in his arms, he said to them, 'Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, and whoever receives me, receives not me but him who sent me.' " - Mark 9:30-37 ESV
If we have no understanding of the cross we will have ambition that has no fellowship with God. After the cross comes in and it is no longer a topic to be avoided with God it is then we become ministers. We can love instead of looking for recognition.
Love becomes a stewardship. Instead of replacing Christ we go as people crucified and raised from the dead. Able ministers to the guilty and the innocent.
When we no longer fear to discuss the cross with God fear of every other topic fades as well. Everything that could ever separate us from fellowship was nailed to that cross. No topic is off limits. We can come just like little children to the one who loves us.